Ending a relationship with a narcissist:

Ending a relationship with a narcissist is not like a regular breakup, people always ask victims and survivors of narcissistic abuse why can’t you just move on? Why can’t you get over it? Why are you still thinking about this person who treated you so bad ,who abused you? And you can’t verbalize why because it’s like where do you even start? The fact that you fell in love with someone that never existed and now you have to mourn the loss of them.. The fact that they conditioned you to be someone that you don’t even recognize in the mirror anymore... How do you explain the guilt that you feel for letting go of this person that made you feel like it was your job on earth to save them... How do you explain the anxiety and loneliness that you feel from not having them there because there the person that soothed you after they abused you, how do you explain that even though they lied to you and fed you empty promises after empty promises that you still had a tiny bit of hope in your head that maybe they can change how do you explain the anger that you feel that you can’t let go of knowing that you were manipulated from day one!! A relationship and a breakup with a narcissist is traumatizing...

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